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People do not want to be alone

Posted on April 28, 2008

People do not want to be alone.

It’s the driving force behind a great deal of human activity. People will do nigh on anything to avoid being alone. People will look to almost anything they can become part of, simply not to be alone. People hunger for the feeling of belonging. They will latch on to the first political party to come there way, provided they find common grounds with the souls in the movement. Gladly they will toss away their own opinions, just to get into that new in-group.

People do not want to be alone.

When you are alone, any group looks appealing, just because it is a group. By becoming part of a group you imagine you will no longer be alone. Heroin addicts, National Socialists, Anarchists, potheads, hippies, emos, Internet trolls, Discordians, gamers… People do not want to be alone. Think of any group and you can bet at least half the people involved just don’t want to be alone. That’s why they’re there. Sure, it’s not the only factor involved. But most people can’t even imagine just actually being alone. Hardly anyone can imagine being okay with it. No, people do not want to be alone. They will latch on to some group, just because it is a group. That’s why groupthink is so appealing. If you agree with the group about everything, you’ll think you’re part of it. Especially when it comes to ideology. These days you can be part of a group just by holding the group’s set of beliefs. Well, if groupthink is all it will take to escape yourself, to be not-alone… Well that’s not such a bad price to pay, right?

People do not want to be alone.

We’re all born with the circuitry we need to be together, to be part of something bigger. We all know it, and we all spend inordinate amounts of energy chasing it. People do not want to be alone. But then when we approach sex, we make it into some kind of cold, mechanical act of release. That’s not what it’s about, folks. People do not want to be alone. Sex, yea all intimacy, is not about release. It’s all about connection. When we break down all walls and barriers, when we’re naked, together, damn near merging into one biological being, finally we are together, entirely. People do not want to be alone. And yet so many people spend so much time chasing that un-alone, only to shy back from the real togetherness right on the verge of its consummation, all too afraid to let their lover be together with them. People do not want to be alone. They become so engrossed in their chase after togetherness, they miss it entirely and understand it as a selfish act. But selfishness is aloneness.

People do not want to be alone.

Well guess what, buddy, you are alone.
Fuck you.

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